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Therapy for Women

Therapy for Women

Life as a woman…well I wouldn’t have it any other way! These bodies were born to grow and survive. Every month we prepare for new life as though we are birthing the world again and again. We carry babies and deliver babies. We show up again and again for all the hard things we contract into creation.

However, we struggle when it comes to showing up for ourselves. The list of people that go before us is long and by the time we get to ourselves, there ain’t nothing left.

"When pain knocks on the door—wise ones breathe deep and say: “Come in. Sit down with me. And don’t leave until you’ve taught me what I need to know.”

-Glennon Doyle Melton

I wish I could watch us treat ourselves the way we treat our babies and our best friends.

How can you possibly have time for therapy when you barely have time to brush your teeth? What if you tried something different? What if you experimented with taking care of yourself and noticing if you start to feel better?

You might even show up differently for your children and your spouse if you spent some time building a relationship with yourself. I have seen it happen over and over. Women come to see me and they are almost completely worn out. We sit in my office and drink tea (actually you can drink tea, and I’ll drink coffee) and we figure out how to rebuild.

According to the National Institute for Mental Health, women are at greater risk than men to experience these mental health issues:

  • Women Experiencing Anxiety Disorders 23.4% 23.4%
  • Women Experiencing a Major Depressive Episode 8.5% 8.5%
  • Women Experiencing PTSD 5.2% 5.2%
  • Women Experiencing Social Anxiety 8% 8%
  • Women Experiencing a Specific Phobia 12.2% 12.2%
  • Women Experiencing Panic Disorder 3.8% 3.8%

Issues specific to women lead us to have an increased vulnerability to mental health issues. Gender inequality, sexual assault, harassment and body image concerns are just a few of the minefields we navigate on a daily basis.

For some of us, the solution has been to find a way to hide from both the brutal things we’ve endured, as well as the fear of what could happen. Women armor up to face the world as a protection from all these scary things. The problem with wearing armor is that what’s underneath can get sick when it doesn’t have the natural chance of exposure.

Together we can gracefully find a way for you to shed the armor of protection so the world can see just how beautiful you truly are.

Lydia Kickliter, LCMHC, LPC, LMHC | Asheville Therapist for Anxiety, Women, and EMDR

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